“You must acknowledge deep in your heart of hearts that people are supposed to fuck. It is our main purpose in life, and all those other activities – playing the trumpet, vacuuming carpets, reading mystery novels, eating chocolate mousse – are just ways of passing the time until you can fuck again.” – Cynthia Heimel
I do not think I have ever read or heard a quote that so exactly and concisely captured my view on life. For my personal preference I would replace the world sex or love-making to fuck and fucking, but that is just a matter of personal taste. Romance is about sex. Restaurants are about sex (and power, which is about sex). Clubs are about sex. Wine is about sex. Alcohol generally is about sex. Clothes are about sex. Jewellery is about sex. Exercise is about sex. Shoes are definitely about sex. Sports are about sex. Escort agencies are about sex. The high end escort agencies are also about a man demonstrating his wealth and his ability to obtain or procure the most attractive women. But that is about sex again.
In fact, I am with Oscar Wilde too. Who ay have captured neatly my other view about sex when he famously said “Everything is about sex. Except sex. Sex is about power.” And that does not just hold true in the world of BDSM, where the exchange of power is negotiated and agreed and part of the sex game. BDSM being the one sport where everyone gets to win, the exchange of power that dominant and submissive – of whatever combinations of genders – is consensual and actively participated in. In “straight” sex, things are very rarely that straightforward in regard to power.
Working in the sex business, way over ninety five per cent of the problems I have had between clients and escort girls have been about clients trying to dominate or force the escort to submit to something that she does not want to. Or with drugs, although drugs just bring about exactly the same situation but give an ass hat of a client an excuse to say that “it was not him, it was the cocaine”. Yeah, that is not really how it works.
So while I agree wholeheartedly that life is all about fucking and waiting to fuck, the power dynamic between people is where it gets fucked up, whether it is women holding it back to exercise control, or men spraying it about to show how young virile and desirable they are. Power and sex are a potent and volatile combination.